queued this up to be the last thing that posts on this blog. hopefully everyone reads it again and is able to work on being better. i still stand by all this but id probably try to put it in kinder terms and include more nuance next time so that the people who want to perpetuate the patriarchy would at least be able to read it without instantly just calling me a bitch. i appreciate everyone who got something out of this and i hope you will all continue to love yourself and the people around you, not just your friends and family but everyone. work together to fix this world and hopefully we can all get to the point where we're free to engage in kink in safe and fun ways without harming anyone else. the only thing you can give away for free without any ramifications to you or someone else is hope and kindness. lets try to be better.
first, i have a queue set up. i’m not here often. don’t expect me to respond to everything all the time. also don’t expect me to respond to your message if you keep sending something like “answer me bitch”. each time you send that i delay responding by another month. you don’t own me, my time, or my energy.
next, please stop asking me or messaging me if i support the patriarchy or that you enjoy that i “know my place”. the only ethical way i can be a slut is by dismantling the christofascist ideals forced on society in almost every country. you want sluts and you want pets but you don’t want them to be free and able to do what they want? get a sex doll. stop dating people or messaging people trying to see if they want to be your live in masturbation tool. stop dehumanizing people. you like that in bdsm scenes? fine. but you need enthusiastic consent from your partner first and then leave that mindset in the scene and fully stop when it’s done.
also, please stop saying racist shit. especially if you see me share something with a person of color. race play is just racism with extra steps and can maybe possibly be done ethically, but i doubt any of the ways you are using it actually is. so just stop. even if you feel like you are complimenting people by being like “they are always big” or “they are naturally so dominant” you understand that’s sometimes wrong right? you understand that anyone can be anything they want and sometimes all your doing is dehumanizing and forcing identity on others, right? like all your doing is feeding into white supremacist views and it’s gross.